Want to see more positive results in your life? Become aware of your language and learn to make it a habit to speak positively. How does this work? Well, your words have energy and they direct your mind. So what you say, especially when it’s emotionally charged, begins a creative cycle in motion.

There are several books that go into great depth on the power of language. They describe how and why our minds focus in on the subject of what we’re saying and how negative words do not even register. It’s a perfect design when we speak positively, but it doesn’t serve us when we speak negatively. That means that when we say things like, “I don’t want to be late.” the direction the mind (subconscious) hears is, “I want to be late.”

This ideas is especially powerful when you have children. Most of us tell our kids what we don’t want. So, when when we say things like, “Please don’t leave the lights on.” they hear, “Please leave the lights on.” And that’s just what they do…leave the lights on. Positive direction, “Please turn the lights off.” gives us positive results.

In quantum physics this idea plays into a principle called the Expectancy Theory. Simply put, we get what we expect in life. (It’s the self-fulfilling prophecy.) Our language tells the world (and our subconscious mind) what we expect. Somehow we seem to have become a society conditioned to expect disappointment. And guess what we get most often? Disappointment. Exactly what we don’t want.

In our Live Dynamite Circles we give people orange rubber bands to put around their wrist as a visible reminder to check in on their thoughts and language. When they recognize negative expressions they switch the rubber band to the other wrist. Change begins the moment we become aware of what we’re doing and commit to new actions.

The beauty of this dynamic is that we can control our thoughts and language. If you’d like to create and attract what you do want, here’s how it works.
1. The first step is awareness. Listen to what you say. When you hear it’s negative, restate it in a positive expression.
2. Drop all negative words (don’t, can’t, never, won’t, etc…).
3. Use visual reminders, and enlist the help of others, to help you check in and stay on track.

Give it try. Learn to become mindful of your language. And believe you can do it.

I can is 100 times more powerful than IQ.
–Anonymous

Expect the best!
Maryanne

Ever have an insight into life and then find you can’t escape it? Lately, I’ve been constantly reminded of how instinctual we are as kids. And how as adults we shut down to the strengths that come so naturally when we’re young. Strengths I believe we were meant to build upon.

Last night we watched the Robin Williams movie “Jack” and again…the same insight was shining through. The movie is about a boy who ages at a rate 4x faster than normal, so at age 10 he looks like he’s 40. Yet, he has the spirit and sense of adventure of a 10 year old.

And so I share with you a few strengths we all had as kids and encourage you to find a way to recapture this perspective.

PRESENCE. Kids are all about NOW. They live in moment and instinctively lose themselves in whatever they are doing. They give their undivided attention to what’s happening NOW. As adults, we tend to live in the past or the future. All too often forgetting to enjoy the moment we’re in, which is all we ever really have.

POSSIBILITIES. What does MAYBE mean to you? Yes or no? I heard a Jack Johnson song the other day, “maybe…pretty much always means no.” It got me thinking, “Well not when you’re a kid. To kids maybe means, YES! The door is still open.” Kids see everything as possible. They believe they can create whatever they want in life. They don’t go to, “What if….” As adults, we tend to stay in our comfort zones. We set goals we believe we can achieve and no more. We brace ourselves for disappointment and expect the worst. In doing so, we miss the opportunity to see what more is possible and keep attracting what we don’t want.

PERSISTENCE. Kids campaign for what they want without fatigue. They’re resilient. My daughter Kate (7) is on a mission to get a hamster. She visualizes where its cage will go. Thinks up names. After prayers, the last word she whispers in my ear each night is “hamster.” She sees it happening and is in the game until she wins. Why is it as adults we’re so willing to drop out at the slightest sign of adversity? We can become so afraid of failure and disappointment that we don’t even get in the game sometimes. Where did our spirit of persistence go?

I encourage you to find that child like spirit that’s still inside of you. Live in the present. Imagine what’s still possible. Practice persistence and create what you want in life. Oh, one more child like skill that would serve us all well…laugh until your sides hurt!

Expect the best,
Maryanne